Apparently my doctor doesn't believe in fertilization reports. It just produces "anxiety" and/or "false hope" since it's common for embryos to arrest between days two and three. So I'm left to wait until Thursday with no other info about my little embryos.
All I can think about is how many we'll transfer. One or two. I know my doctor will give me a recommendation, but she's understandably biased since her reputation depends on her success rates and twins would be a much bigger deal for me than they would be to her. I know we'll have to make the decision in a short and emotionally charged time, so I'm trying to get all the info I can. I really want this to work, but I also want a normal singleton pregnancy. I know we would make adjustments and handle it if we had twins, but the risks of carrying them and the increased cost (not to mention extra work) really scares me.
I'm a little more open to the idea of transferring two after my blind date of sorts. A friend of a friend is pregnant with twins from her third IVF. It was nice to talk to someone in person who has been through this. I had never met her or even seen a picture. Luckily she was the only pregnant woman in the cafe. We had a great chat. She said after the pain and expense of 3 IVFs she's glad she's completing her family all at once. I'm still not convinced, but we could end up with twins even if we transfer one. Maybe I need to stop worrying about it so much.
Otherwise, her main pieces of advice were to pamper myself during the 2ww, not to spend too much time alone, and to plan a getaway the weekend after we find out. Whether we're ecstatic or devastated it will be nice to have something to look forward to.
I'm requesting any and all advice r/t the one or two question, so feel free to leave a comment.
I can't believe the transfer is tomorrow!
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Mom to a healthy and spirited boy thanks to a successful round of IVF. Since then I've had two first trimester losses. The journey continues...
About Me
- CC
- California, United States
- MM and I have been married for 11 years. We were blissfully childless for 6 of those years, then it started to get painful. In our late 20's, we thought we were too young for this sort of thing. We soon learned that infertility is not a respecter of age or good living. After a year and a half of trying (with lots of "help"), and a somewhat challenging pregnancy (preterm labor, gestational diabetes, etc.) we had our son at home December 28, 2008 at term. After so many years of waiting and wondering, I was finally a mom. Now we want to expand our family again. So far it isn't going the way I had hoped.
A "Brief" History
- May 2011: Loss at 6 weeks gestation
- November 2010: Loss at 9 weeks gestation
- December 28 2008: Jonas is Born! 6 lb 12 oz.
- May 15 2008: 6w US-singleton
- April 2008: IVF #1-BFP!!
- February 2008: Medicated IUI #4-BFN
- January 2008: Medicated IUI #3-BFN
- December 2007: New RE.
- September-December 2007: No meds. Just us. Lots of sex. No babies.
- September 2007: Re-started acupuncture.
- August 2007: Medicated IUI #2-BFN
- August 2007: HSG shows potentially obstructed left fallopian tube.
- July 2007: Clomid with timed intercourse-BFN
- June 2007: Medicated IUI #1-BFN
- May 2007: First appt with RE. Quit acupuncture.
- March 2007: Started acupuncture.
- December 2006: Made an appointment with an RE, then canceled it. Maybe FSH isn't all that important.
- November 2006: Promptly stopped any form of contraception and hoped for the best.
- October 2006: 3 Day FSH 10.7. Ouch. Wasn't ready for that.
- September 2006: Started obsessing about my cycles after an RE gave a lunch CME at work. Noticed my cycles seemed to be getting shorter. Wondered if we should start trying.
- June 2003: Laparoscopy and HSG. Diagnosed with mild endometriosis. Both tubes were patent, so nothing to worry about fertility wise (or so we were told).
3 comments:
oh my gosh! yaaaay! i am so excited for you guys! well...i'm probably a bad person to ask for advice on multiples...seeing as how i have quadruplets! but i DO know this: ANYTHING is possible and you WILL SURVIVE no matter what you choose! You do what is best for YOU guys. If it were me, I would want 2...b/c if we end up with twins, our fam is complete. I wouldn't want to risk having to go through any more IVF or additional procedures. (not to mention the cost aspect) I'd rather be spending money on my children, than TRYING to have children. Basically speaking from a nurse's standpoint, the odds of producing at least one child, are better with implanting two. BUT JESS, this comes down to what YOU BOTH feel is right in YOUR hearts for your fam! don't be pressured by anyone. (and don't think that raising twins would be like what you went through at my house! haha..MUCH easier!) LOVE YOU! praying praying praying!!!!
Just stay away from Dr. Google as much as possible--this made me so anxious about things that :may or may not: be happening.
Thinking of you!
I say go for two. I don't think you would ever regret it. Of course I haven't raised twins but we do have a set in my family and they have been such a joy to all of us especially their mother. But like others have said it is up to you and what you feel in your heart. This is exciting!
Jamie
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